Addiction Isn’t Your Fault, It’s Your Responsibility

Last updated on November 4th, 2019

Once we’re addicted to drugs or alcohol, we tend to blame everyone but ourselves…for everything. We’re knee-deep in self-pity; we use our “condition” as a crutch or a justification to keep using.

Even though we didn’t choose to become addicted, we often forget the ultimate choice lies entirely within: Are we willing to do the work to get clean and sober?

Stop Pointing the Finger

Blame encourages a whole host of negative emotions that prevent us from thinking clearly. Believing it’s always someone else’s fault simply removes responsibility and enables us to complain about a situation without actually confronting the challenges ahead.

Those of us who regularly partake in the blame game not only stay trapped in our addiction, this mentality also puts us on the fast track to relapse.

In order for any of us to build a successful life away from addiction, we have to take responsibility for our own lives.

Emotional sobriety means dealing with life in a more honest way and taking control of decisions that are made. Owning up to our own mistakes and not pointing the finger at someone else helps us get the most out of recovery.

Taking Steps Toward Responsibility

Having to admit you have a problem – and then taking responsibility for that problem – is very difficult to do, especially when it doesn’t come naturally. So, where do we start?

First, ditch the blame. Start being proactive and resolve to get professional help right away. Even though it’s not your fault you’re addicted, it is your responsibility to seek treatment and go after it with all you’ve got. Second, learn to accept yourself for who you are and what you’ve been through. Challenges, such as a traumatic past, behavioral health issues or a past prison sentence may be part of your past, but in no way, shape, form or fashion do they define you.

Accepting what happened in the past and acknowledging that you are a stronger person because of it can help with self-improvement and healing. A key insight to remember is that blame never leads to real change; once you are truly ready to stop doing it, you’re ready to move forward and start living a newly liberated life.

Becoming clean and sober is a choice that’s entirely up to you; only you have the power to make it happen!
Additional Reading:   The Danger of Holding Onto a Victim Mentality

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